Chapter 5: February-March

Waiting and Worrying

The anxious months when applications are under review and the family learns that submitting applications was just the beginning of a complex process.

The Waiting Period Journey

Early February: The Verification Notice

Emma's FAFSA is selected for verification, requiring extensive documentation and coordination between divorced parents.

Mid-February: The CSS Profile Surprise

University of Georgia requires a CSS Profile due in 3 days, needing financial information from both parents.

Late February: Scholarship Application Marathon

Emma discovers separate scholarship applications with their own deadlines and requirements.

Early March: The Waiting Game Psychology

The hardest phase begins as Emma and her family wait for decisions while managing anxiety and uncertainty.

Mid-March: Financial Aid Education

The family learns about different types of aid and realizes how complex financial aid packaging really is.

Late March: First Acceptance Reality Check

Emma receives her first acceptance with a scholarship offer that brings mixed emotions and financial decisions.

The Verification Shock

"Your FAFSA has been selected for verification..."
"Does this mean something's wrong? Did we mess up the FAFSA?"

The Reality: About 30% of FAFSAs are randomly selected for verification. It doesn't mean they did anything wrong, but it does mean more paperwork and potential delays.

Required Documentation
  • Federal tax transcripts for both Emma and her mom
  • Bank statements from the past three months
  • W-2 forms and 1099 statements
  • Verification of child support received
  • Signed verification worksheets

The CSS Profile Surprise

What They Discovered

CSS Profile Facts:

  • • Separate financial aid application
  • • Required by some schools for institutional aid
  • • Costs $25 to send to each school
  • • Requires information from BOTH divorced parents

The Emergency Response:

  • • Emergency phone call between parents
  • • Dad creates CSS Profile account
  • • Family pays $25 rush fee
  • • Everyone stressed about another deadline

The Scholarship Application Marathon

Emma discovers that submitting college applications was just the beginning. Many schools require separate scholarship applications with their own deadlines:

University of Alabama Merit Scholarships
Deadline: March 1st
completed

Requirements: Additional essays required

Potential Value: $20,000/year (crucial for affordability)

Arizona State University Scholarships
Deadline: February 28th
completed

Requirements: Separate application portal, letters of recommendation

Potential Value: Varies

CU Boulder Academic Scholarships
Deadline: Various (some missed)
partially missed

Requirements: Mix of automatic and separate applications

Potential Value: Multiple opportunities

The Waiting Game Psychology

With all paperwork submitted, Emma enters the hardest phase: waiting. College decisions won't come until late March or April, but the waiting affects everyone differently.

Emma's Experience
  • Obsessively checks email and application portals
  • Compares herself to friends who applied Early Decision
  • Second-guesses every essay and application choice
  • Alternates between confidence and panic
Mom's Experience
  • Worries about the financial commitments ahead
  • Questions whether they made good school choices
  • Researches student loan options 'just in case'
  • Tries to stay positive while managing her own anxiety
Dad's Experience
  • Feels guilty about the late financial planning
  • Researches colleges Emma didn't apply to but should have
  • Wonders if they should have encouraged a gap year
  • Attempts to reassure Emma while dealing with uncertainty

Learning About Financial Aid Types

While waiting for decisions, Emma's family educates themselves about different types of financial aid, realizing how much they didn't understand.

Federal Aid (FAFSA-based)
  • • Pell Grants: Emma's family makes too much to qualify
  • • Federal Student Loans: Emma can borrow $5,500 as a freshman
  • • Parent PLUS Loans: Parents can borrow up to full cost (but should they?)
  • • Work-Study: Campus jobs that help students earn money
Institutional Aid (School-based)
  • • Need-based grants: Varies dramatically by school
  • • Merit scholarships: Based on grades, test scores, talents
  • • Athletic scholarships: Not relevant for Emma
  • • Special program scholarships: Some she missed but didn't know existed
State Aid
  • • Colorado Opportunity Fund: Reduces tuition for in-state students
  • • College Opportunity Fund: Additional aid for Colorado residents
  • • Other state programs: Family should have researched earlier

The Peer Pressure and Comparison Game

As college decisions start rolling in for Emma's friends, the social dynamics become challenging.

What Emma Hears:

"I got into my dream school with a full ride!"

What Emma Feels:

Behind and unprepared compared to her peers

What Emma Hears:

"My parents said money isn't an issue, so I can go anywhere I want"

What Emma Feels:

Embarrassed about her family's financial constraints

What Emma Hears:

"I applied to 15 schools—I have so many choices!"

What Emma Feels:

Worried that she won't have good options

What Emma Hears:

"My college consultant helped me find schools with amazing merit aid"

What Emma Feels:

Resentful that other families seem to have it figured out

The First Acceptance and Reality Check

Arizona State University - Barrett Honors College

The Offer:

  • • Acceptance to Barrett Honors College
  • • $12,000/year merit scholarship
  • • Net cost: $36,000/year
  • • Total four-year cost: $144,000

Emma's Mixed Feelings:

  • • Excited about acceptance and honors recognition
  • • Disappointed the scholarship isn't larger
  • • Anxious about the total cost
  • • Frustrated that her first "yes" comes with financial stress
The Family Discussion

Emma:

"I got in! And I got money!"

Mom:

"That's wonderful, honey. The scholarship helps, but it's still a lot of money."

Dad:

"It's a good school, but let's see what the other schools offer before deciding."

March Reflection: What the Waiting Period Taught Them

About the Process
  • College applications are just the beginning - verification, CSS Profile, and scholarship applications follow
  • Financial aid is complicated - different types of aid work differently
  • Every school packages aid uniquely - you can't predict offers until you receive them
  • Deadlines continue throughout the process - it's not over when applications are submitted
  • Information keeps coming - families need to stay organized and responsive
About Family Dynamics
  • Waiting brings out different stress responses in family members
  • Divorced parents need ongoing communication throughout the process
  • Emma needs emotional support during uncertain times
  • Comparison with peers is natural but unhelpful
  • The family is learning to work as a team despite past challenges
About Financial Reality
  • Merit scholarships help but might not solve everything
  • Even 'good' financial aid offers can be unaffordable
  • Every acceptance comes with a financial decision
  • The family's budget constraints are real and need to guide choices
  • There's a difference between getting in and being able to afford it

Looking Ahead to Decision Time

As March ends, Emma's family is better educated about college financing but more anxious about their choices. They're learning that getting accepted is only half the battle—affording college is the other half.

What They're Waiting For:

  • • Decisions from remaining five schools
  • • Financial aid packages from each school
  • • Merit scholarship notifications
  • • Ability to compare real costs vs. estimates

What They've Learned:

  • • Process is more complex than anticipated
  • • Early planning would have provided more options
  • • Financial aid varies dramatically between schools
  • • Family coordination is essential for divorced families

What They're Prepared For:

  • • Making decisions based on fit and affordability
  • • Having difficult conversations about debt
  • • Supporting Emma through disappointing choices
  • • Working together despite past challenges
Coming Next: April
Decision Time

When all the acceptances and financial aid offers arrive, and Emma's family must make their final choice.

Continue to April

Chapter 5 of 6

February-March: Waiting and Worrying

Next: April